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Posted by: Maricopa Lawyers on Sep 30, 2014

How well do you manage conflict? No matter where you stand, there’s always room for improvement.

Conflict is an everyday fact of life and we can either choose to embrace it or avoid it, the latter option generally exacerbating the problem. One of the most important skills we can have is to accept conflict and accept its natural occurrence in an ongoing relationship. Every conflict is an opportunity for growth, a chance to gain essential life perspective and increased understanding.

Your first aim should be to serve as a calming agent in regards to managing conflict. It’s important to consider how your reaction can affect the conflict at hand, either escalating tension or deflating its intensity. Adopt an objective point of view and focus on fairness. Focus on how you can work with both parties during conflict to negotiate a resolution.

Stay actively engaged in regards to listening on both sides of the aisle. Express how you feel using “I” based statements as you discuss the conflict objectively. What are you trying to achieve through resolution? Make your point clear and formulate a plan of action around avoiding the conflict in the future.

Deeper analysis of conflict goes a long way in finding resolution, as well as preventing similar instances in the future. Ask yourself questions like, what triggered the conflict, why is either party angry, what are you not receiving, is your conflict exaggerated, how are emotions fueling the situation? These are difficult questions to answer in some cases but they clearly serve a purpose.

No conflict can be managed if either party is unwilling to work together to resolve the issue. If you can’t agree to disagree, there are rare cases where legal action must be taken to find resolution. Never hesitate to consult with an attorney if you believe you have a case.