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Posted by: Maricopa Lawyers on Oct 15, 2013

When divorce is necessary, successful co-parenting becomes a priority. Studies show children of divorce can actually grow up with an increased sense of independence and emotional maturity. Providing two loving homes to your child during this difficult transition can increase the likelihood they amount to far more than a statistic of divorce.

Your family situation is unique, the circumstances of your divorce solely pertaining to you and your former spouse. That being said, there is no universal solution to co-parenting. Rather, co-parenting is the result of good communication with your former spouse and compromising when it matters most.

If you’re committed to co-parenting for the sake of your child, you’ll need to encourage the relationship they maintain with your former spouse. Remember, your child is highly impressionable; even faint criticism of the other parent can create a certain bias. Your children have the right to seek a healthy relationship with their father/mother – don’t allow personal pride to get in the way. Lead by example in terms of taking care of yourself.

Presenting a united front is essential to good co-parenting. Your child might gravitate toward you or your former spouse, but such behavior shouldn’t be encouraged. Both parents should take an active role in the discipline of the child, never exploit the opportunity to win favor with your child. Support the other parent whenever possible.

Provide help to your children if they need it. Divorce can stir anxiety and depression within seemingly normal children. Talking with your children about their feelings and fears is essential. If they’re uncomfortable communicating with you, respect their decision for the time being and find someone they can open up to.

Co-parenting is possible when both parties are willing to put their children first.